Saturday, 22 September 2018

We Went To Matlock!

With Emily not being from around where I am, she had never heard of Matlock Illuminations, let alone been to them. So when we found out that it was Matlock Illuminations, we had to go.

Matlock Bath always reminds me of a little sea-side type town with its arcades, candy floss and slushies, boat rides, ice cream shops and most importantly, fish and chip shops. Getting fish and chips when in Matlock bath is a must. And at Matlock Illuminations? I have heard that its a new rule that if you go to Matlock illuminations that you have to get fish and chips.

I recently made an incredible discovery in Matlock Bath. An unvisited gem for myself. Tucker's fish and chip shop. One word: amazing.




The staff are friendly, exceptionally helpful and very polite. The owner is so lovely and nice to talk to.

The overall look and layout of the shop is great. I love the green/blue theme and all the art work around on the walls. There are many tables/booths (however it is a very popular place so many of the tables are often full!) inside and outside. The tables are spacious and tidy. They even




The shop as a whole is immactulate which you generally wouldnt expect from a fish and chip shop. We couldnt fault it what so ever.

And the food? The food was on another level. I genuinely dont think that I have ever been to a nicer chip shop, seriously. It was the nicest fish I have ever had and some of the greatest chips that I have ever had. They were not greasy as you would expect from the typical fish and chip shop, which I think is what makes Tuckers stand out above any other fish and chip shop.




Also the drinks come in a fancy plastic cup and the food comes on top of some 'newspaper' which I think are just 2 things which makes Tuckers unique and my favourite.
 



It is safe to say Tuckers fish and chip shop in Matlock Bath definitely exceeded our already high expectations and we will most definitely be visiting again in the near future. 

The delicious fish and chips were followed by a walk by the river, a slushie, sweets and the illuminations.

THE nicest sweets.






The fireworks following the illuminations just topped the already perfect night off. 



 



How can you find Tuckers fish and chip shop?
01629 57306

Monday, 10 September 2018

Survivor To Warrior

Lisa Cybaniak is an incredible woman with one hell of a story. Lisa is a survivor of 10 years of child abuse, but she wont let that stop her.  Her mission is to help as many people as she can. She is a Success Coach, a Motivational Speaker, Blogger and the founder of lifelikeyoumeanit.com. Through sharing her story and breaking her silence on abuse, she is on a mission to shed the stigma of being abused. She is dedicated to empowering survivors of abuse to find their purpose in order to build the life they deserve. From survivor to warrior. 



Lisa's Story
Lisa grew up in an abusive home where she was physically, psychologically, and sexually abused by her now ex-step father for 10 years. She turned the most positive experiences into negativity because that was comfortable for her mind after being told what she had by her ex-step father, she was believing his lies.

In her early twenties, she finally began to see the pattern in the mistakes, she was apparently determined to repeat, over and over again. Her choice in men was less than exceptional, for example. She kept choosing men who were not ready, willing or able to love and commit to her. For a long time she blamed herself, thinking that she was attracting them to her because she deserved that treatment. Then it hit her - She didn’t believe she deserved better, so she wasn’t allowing herself any better. She realised that the very act of shielding herself from failure was infact failure - a failure to believe in herself, not just her abilities and worth, but in her ability to handle rejection or loss.

Her Successes and Work
Changing those patterns and her mindset was a challenge as we all can understand but she did it! She taught herself just how useful, worthy, and lovable she really is. She fell in love with herself– with her strength and the beauty that lay within, which is the greatest love story out there. Being positive became her new comfort zone.


Survivor To Warrior Coaching Program
This transformation is possible for you too! Lisa's proven process of transformation has been designed using all the valuable strategies she personally used in her transformation and this is available to you as 3 month coaching program called ‘Survivor to Warrior!’ To find out more about her coaching program, visit www.lifelikeyoumeanit.com/work-with-me

Before she considers anyone for her coaching program, she asks them to book a free 30 minute call with her so you can both get to know each other. It’s as much for her as it is for you as she will only work with those who are ready, willing and able to dedicate and commit themselves to the hard work that is needed to go through the program with success. It is a very personal process but so worth it.

Overcoming Self-Sabotage Course
Lisa is also offering a 6 week online course called 'Overcoming Self-Sabotage,' which launches on the 24th of September. Registration opens on the 15th of September. To find out more click here http://www.lifelikeyoumeanit.com/overcoming-self-sabotage/

The link above will also be where Lisa will post the coupon links for the 5 days she is offering the 40% off.

Are you suffering from self-sabotage?
  • Do you work hard but never make the progress you expect?
  • Are you disappointed with where you are in life, professionally or personally?
  • Do you feel stuck?
  • Are you struggling to find a relationship with someone who knows your worth and treats you with respect?
  • Are you unhappy at work but content enough to remain where you are?
  • Are you living pay cheque to pay cheque whilst watching others grow their wealth?
If you answered 'yes' to any of these questions then you are likely sabotaging yourself on a daily basis. But don't worry, there is help! Using Lisa's online course, you can kick self-sabotage out of your life.

What can you expect from the course?
  • Ultimate access to your secure site to access all of your resources. 
  • Meditations, visualisations and other activities in every module to help you progress. 
  • Free membership to the secret Facebook group where you can have access to bonus resources, have direct access to Lisa and other students, daily inspiration and motivation and access to the links for the coaching calls. 
  • Weekly group coaching, the links will be posted in the Facebook group and all calls will be recorded and the links will be posted within the Facebook group so you will never miss a thing.
  • Each module consists of a video outlining the tasks for the week and any resources you will require such as worksheets and audio recordings of meditations and visualisations.
The course breakdown:
6 modules in 6 weeks. 

Module 1: Facing your past
  • Determine your coping strategies and belief systems. 
  • Discover the truth.
Module 2: Discovering your patterns
  • How are you meeting your needs and coping today?
  • How is this impacting your life?
Module 3: Surrender
  • Surrender control and release your fears to the universe.
  • Forgiveness. 
Module 4: Redefine yourself
  • Create new beliefs, coping strategies and mechanisms to meet your needs, replacing the old ones. 
  • Discover your true life lessons.
Module 5: No more excuses
  • What do you truly deserve?
  • Get out of your own way!
Module 6: Recognising opportunities
  • Learn to turn your weaknesses into your greatest strengths. 
  • See opportunities where you used to see disappointment.
Bonus challenge:
  • A 60 day challenge for you to undertake!


You can get all of this for £325 or 2 payments of £179 (prices exclude VAT).

Students also have the option to enrol in the ‘Premium edition’, which includes all the same as the in the basic, plus weekly one-on-one coaching with Lisa (total of 6 sessions).

You can get this for £897 or 2 payments of £477 (prices exclude VAT). 

There is also VIP enrolment (to either course edition) with a massive 40% off discount, for 5 days only, from September 15-19. The discount will then be removed for enrolments between the 19th and 24th when enrolment will close. 



Where can you find Lisa?
Website
Facebook
Twitter
Instagram
Pinterest
LinkedIn


includes paid opportunity

Thursday, 6 September 2018

Getting Help In A Non-Crisis Situation

A mental health crisis often means that you no longer feel able to cope or be in control of your situation. You may feel great emotional distress or anxiety, or you can’t cope with day-to-day life or work, think about suicide or self harm. I am sure we would all know what to do in this situation, or ways to help someone else in this situation. But not many people know what to do in a non crisis situation for many different reasons. Many people just wouldnt know where to turn first, or just wouldnt even bother as they dont think it is serious. You are worth the care and your mental health matters!

There are surprisingly a few people you can turn to for help in a non crisis situation. One being your GP. For many of us, a GP is the first place we go to when we are physically ill but would not dream of going for our mental health, but they're there to help. It may not be a quick process but if you go, at least you're doing something. Your doctor might be able to diagnose you, offer you help/support/treatment like counselling or therapy, offer you medication, or refer you to a mental health specialist. Just remember, it is okay to be scared, it is normal. If you go, it will change your life.

Another place to go is a trained therapist or counsellor. Although you usually have to get referred to one of these by a doctor, there are some where you can contact them directly, you just may have to do a bit of searching.

There are many charities and organisations worldwide that offer support for people struggling with their mental health. This includes helplines and listening services, other services such as peer supporttalking therapiesadvocacycrisis care, employment and housing support. One example of this is Samaritans. You can call or email samaritans and they are so helpful.

And the people who care the most? Friends, family and neighbours. They may sometimes not appear to care but sometimes the signs are not obvious. Reach out, it may be the best decision you make. They can offer advice, support and my favourite, hugs. They can also offer encouragement, come to appointments with you, help you with every day tasks, help you find out information and discuss your options with you. They are definitely people to talk to! Even if you talk to a GP as well.

Peer support can also be very useful. You normally find that you are not alone in these feelings, talking to your peers will make you open up and share experiences and usually, others will feel the same too.

In education and work they usually have specific places you can go to if you enquire about it. For example, higher education institutions usually have a student wellbeing centre where enrolled students can go for support. And some workplaces offer free access to support services such as talking therapies. This is called an Employee Assistance Programme.

These are just a few options, if you need help, please reach out for help. Remember, you are stronger than you think. 

Friday, 31 August 2018

10 Places I Would Like To Travel To

There are many places I would love to travel to if I had the money, here are a random 10 places that I'd love to visit sometime in the near future, hopefully.


10. Dublin, Ireland



9. Rome, Italy



8. Lisbon, Portugal



7. Prague, Czech Republic



6. Berlin, Germany



5. Santorini, Greece



4. Budapest



3. Toronto, Canada



2. Venice, Italy



1. Nashville, Tennessee

Thursday, 23 August 2018

YouTubers Saving Lives

If you hadn't already noticed, the YouTube world is pretty big right now. There are many big YouTubers who you may know like Pointless Blog aka Alfie Deyes and Zoella aka Zoe Sugg. However, the real hidden gems are the smaller YouTubers.

Many of the YouTubers that I follow are smaller ones and it is so much more rewarding. But seeing someone whos content is at the standard (or better!) of the bigger YouTubers but is underappreciated is super sad.

My favourite YouTuber is Tayler Made, you dont know her? Exactly. She is SO under appreciated. She currently has a very impressive (but no where near what she deserves) 38K subscribers. Honestly, this young woman is a miracle. She deserves in the millions, if not, more.




Tayler makes all kinds of different videos from vlogs with her daughter to LGBTQ+ based videos with her girlfriend, Shannon. She really does have videos to suit everybody, of every age, of every gender, sexuality ect.

And the best thing about Tayler you ask? Her kind heart. Tayler does not have a bad bone in her body, trust me. Follow her, and you're her friend. You're not a fan. She is so down to earth and genuinely cares about every single one of us. She is a young mother trying to make some money for her family whilst she is finishing her undergrad degree.

Tayler first started off on YouTube documenting her pregnancy in 2012 with her only child Sawyer. Now, we have been introduced to her girlfriend Shannon, who is as lovely as Tayler is may I add! Both of them seem completely in love and it is so lovely to see. Shannon seems as though she treats Tayler so well and that is what she deserves.

Tayler had been through her fair share of struggles but it has never stopped her. She is a strong, inspiring young woman, who radiates positivity when and where she can.




Make sure to follow Tayler, you wont regret it!
Tayler's YouTube
Tayler's Instagram
Tayler's Twitter

Wednesday, 22 August 2018

ARC Adventure

What is ARC Adventure?
ARC is a collaboration of enthusiastic individuals that all have the same passion in life, Adventure. Passionate about travel, they say that experience is what moulds an individual into what they are and say that it is important to get what you strive for. It doesnt matter where or when, land or under water, experience is the only thing that matters to these incredible individuals. 

We all know there is pure joy captured within travelling. Travelling helps you to embrace, learn about and appreciate different cultures and ways of life and adapt to a vast range of situations.

Whether it is a sense of achievement that you want to fulfill or a rush of adrenaline you want to achieve, these guys can help you. Their passion for travelling and helping people to travel is so evident when they talk to you. They go out of their way to find you an experience that will suit you and motivate you. They take the time to learn a bit about you, followed by them suggesting and matching ideas based around you as an individual and the experiences you want. They can help you decide which experiences are going to have the greatest impact on you and your life. 

Whatever you're specifically looking for, these guys can help. Friendships, memories, life changing moments. They can help. Take the opportunity and contact them today for help with your next adventures. They have had an incredible time whilst travelling and they want to help others to experience that happiness and have the memories to last a life time.

Sri Lanka this way!

So why ARC Adventure you ask?
ARC Adventure have 4 main flourishing points which stand way over the others:

1. They are 100% financially protected. You can trust that your money is always safe with them. 

2. They are incredibly passionate about what they do. You can see that they have a pure passion for what they do upon your first conversation. So you can trust that you are always getting the best service with them. 

3. They are super environmentally aware, a good ethos. They promote sustainable travel to have the smallest possible impact on the world. 

4. They are charitable people as well as all of this. You buy from them and they give back. They support charities in the locations of the tours that they sell as a way of giving back to the local economy, incredible, eh?


Sketching with an instrument, Sri Lanka
 
Redefining the unique tour
ARC Adventure make it easy for people to experience a whole range of tailor made tours, relating to you and your interests for a bespoke package that you will never forget. Having the ability to adjust your tour is the best freedom you can have whilst travelling and it is important to ensure that you are doing what you want to do at every moment of your travelling. With ARC Adventure, you can have private tours which provide the flexibility that can enhance your time travelling in ways that scheduled tours will not.

There are many different tours on offer from ARC Adventure, in many different locations across the globe, including places like: Sri Lanka, South America and Thailand. There are tours to suit everyone with varying interests. Conservation tours, Sri Lanka, Africa and scuba diving are among the most popular tours from ARC Adventure, but there are many more, including tribal tours, coffee tours, tea tours, school tours, surfing and so much more. To find out more, contact them direct!

As previously mentioned, ARC Adventure are out to help as many people as they can, whether it is helping people reach their dreams of travelling or helping out small independent companies. For small independent companies they aim to help add more value to their customers through the tours that they do. 


Yala National Park, Sri Lanka

Daniel and Kriss history
When you book through a big company, you are just adding to their numbers, to put it straight, you are just a number at the bottom line and their focus is money. You don't get to know the ethos of the company or the people behind it. With ARC Adventure, its not like this. The history of ARC Adventure comes out through what they do, they are always creating the tours for you, they care and they take it personal. They care about you. They care about your experience. They care about others. And they care about the environment. 


What can I say about Kriss? He is one of the only people I have met who cares as much as me about the environment. This passion comes across in all that he does in work and in his personal life. We met at university and soon became close friends, this friendship stood the test of time when we both went off travelling the world in different directions. He proceeded to travel through South America, building his diving experience and his knowledge base for environmental conservation ending up in Thailand building coral reef structures and teaching divers to protect the underwater environment. He brings this out not just in his work but also with the projects and the ethos of our brand. He is of great value not just within the company but also as a great friend. And I hope you all get that chance to know him as I do. 
    Written by DJ.

Kriss, diving.
  
DJ has a passion for protecting the environment and is always thinking of unique ways to help and change the way the environment is impacted. This shared ethos is what brought myself and DJ together to form ARC. Dedication and determination is key when dealing with such a delicate area and encouraging others to do so. DJ went to Madagascar, Thailand and South America working on marine protection projects during the same time I was dedicated to the same aspects in South America. Little was known at the time that we were both on such a similar path. It only made sense to team up and put our passion together and DJ both in his personal life and business has taken every step to protect the vulnerable environments that around us. Both starting as such great friends, forming this partnership has also formed a strong bond which we both put our hearts into making a positive difference. This has become our ethos and brand and when you meet DJ you will see instantly his care and desire to help the marine ecosystem and reverse some of the damage done.  
     Written by Kriss.

DJ, diving.


Kriss talks about what the heart and core of ARC Adventure is about. Showing you first hand the passion the company has.



Contact ARC Adventure direct here:
Email: info@arcadventure.co.uk
Phone: 01531 800388
ARC Adventure Facebook
ARC Adventure Twitter
ARC Adventure Instagram 

Saturday, 18 August 2018

Disability In The Entertainment Industry: An Interview With Cara Readle

Hi Cara, welcome to my blog! For those viewers who don't recognise your name, where will they know you from?
I used to be a regular on a Children's TV programme called The Story of Tracy Beaker, I have since played roles in other television programmes.


How would you describe yourself and your life right now?
I'm a very happy and determined person. I am still acting but finding it very hard to get seen for auditions, I know this is partly down to my disability but I will keep going.

Growing up, what was your favourite thing to do?
I loved drama in and out of school. I also loved to write, I was always writing stories.

What got you into acting?
I went to a local drama group when I was 10 years old, because I enjoyed it so much in school. My drama teacher from this group knew the casting director of Tracy Beaker, there were multiple parts being cast but for one of them was for a girl with a disability, I went to three auditions in total then I got the part!

How was being in Tracy Beaker? (also known as the most loved childrens programme ever!)
I was so lucky to have been in Tracy Beaker at only 12 years old. Filming for television was all new to me but I loved it, I got to learn a job that I still love today. All the cast had such a good time together and I really did make friends for life.




What has been your favourite role to date?
Layla in Tracy Beaker will always have a special place in my heart as it was my first job. But one of my favourite roles was Ellen in Baker Boys (BBC Wales). 


Who has been your favourite cast member to work with to date?
I actually have two, I did a series for BBC Wales called Baker Boys and Eve Myles was playing my Characters mum. I think Eve is a fantastic actress and I feel blessed to have worked so closely with her. Also, I had a small part in a Sky 1 drama called The Smoke where I got to work with Jodie Witiker, the new Doctor Who! Again it was a privilege to work with such a talented actress. 


Do you think that there is lack of representation for actors/actresses with disabilities in the entertainment industry? Why?
I do think there is a lack of representation for actors/actresses with disabilities in the entertainment industry. I'm not 100% sure of the reason but I think it could be the fear of the Unknown and fear of offending by asking certain questions. If people have never worked with someone with a disability before they are probably more fearful of doing so. Similarly, there maybe a fear of unintentionally offending someone if they ask certain questions. I'd like to say to anyone who might feel that way, there is nothing to fear, I'm an actress who will work as any other actress would, you can also ask me anything you want or need to know, you won't offend me.

What is it like being a disabled actress?
Like everything, it has its positives and negatives. It's good because when I do get roles people get to watch me which will raise more awareness of disability and also I've had people with disabilities telling me how much it helps them seeing me on screen witch is a lovely positive reaction to have. However, being a disabled actress (as I have discovered) you get far less auditions than able-bodied actors/actresses so it is harder to secure an acting job.


What do you think are your greatest strengths and your weaknesses?
I think my biggest strength is my determination which has got me to where I am today.
I think that my biggest weakness is that I allow myself to get very frustrated when there is a lack of opportunities around when I'm not working.
 
Do you have any advice for any disabled teenagers/young adults with a dream of an acting career?
Make sure it is 100% what you want to do as it requires a lot of dedication and a thick skin. Also try to get another job or hobby to keep you busy when your not working or auditioning.

Should you be afraid of other peoples opinions?
No, not at all. If it's someone trying to help take it as something that you can work on. If it is negative and not constructive at all then it will probably have come from someone you don't care about anyway so don't waste your time even thinking about it.

Do you have an experience of bullying in your past? At school/college or work.
I've been really not to experience bullying. Sure people look or stare but I'm not going to let that bother me.

Do you have any advice for anyone who is being bullied right now?
If there is someone you can tell in confidence then do talk about it. Do not be ashamed, it's the bullies that should be ashamed not you. Find something that makes you happy and focus on the people that don't give you a hard time. There will be a way out and a time when it stops. Someone who bullies you is not worth you time, thoughts or emotions.

What do you think the biggest cause of prejudice is?
I think it's a lack of understanding, when someone see's something or someone different, sometimes they won't understand why they're different or give a person time to learn that they're not so different on the inside.

If you could change anything about the world, what would you change?
That everyone was treated as equal and differences were embraced, like race, religion, disablity, sexuality esc.

Lastly, what has been your favourite memory so far in the entertainment industry?
I am lucky to have so many amazing memories but one stand out one is going to the Welsh BAFTA's in 2009, and we actually won! It was an amazing experience and I met some amazing people.

Thank you for your time! I really appreciate you answering these questions and sharing your experiences. All the best for the future Cara!

Thursday, 16 August 2018

Things I Hate: My Anxiety Edition

 I found these on Instagram and I thought it would be a different blog post to my usual, so here it is!



RELATE, DONT RELATE or SOMEWHAT RELATE

Phone calls      RELATE
Parties      RELATE
Talking to people      RELATE
Public speaking      RELATE
Talking quietly and then being asked "what?"      RELATE
Small talk      SOMEWHAT RELATE
Elevators      RELATE
One on one conversations      SOMEWHAT RELATE
Ignorant loud people      SOMEWHAT RELATE
No self checkout      RELATE
Ordering food or buying something      RELATE
Asking an employee where something is      RELATE
No drive through      RELATE
Being the centre of attention      RELATE
Eye contact      RELATE
Overthinking      RELATE
Compliments      SOMEWHAT RELATE
Off hand comments that mean nothing to anyone but you      SOMEWHAT RELATE
Partner or group projects      RELATE
Forgetting headphones      DONT RELATE
Haircuts      RELATE
When people look at you      RELATE
Strangers      SOMEWHAT RELATE
Entering a room and everyone looks at you      RELATE
Public toilets      RELATE
Eating infront of others      RELATE
Being singled out      RELATE
Criticism      RELATE

Saturday, 11 August 2018

LGBTQ+ In The Music Industry: An Interview With Gabz

Hi Gabz, welcome to my blog! I hope you're doing okay and living life to the fullest right now. For anyone who doesnt recognise your name, where will people most likely know you from?
Hey! People might recognise me from Britain’s Got Talent where I got to the final in 2013!




As you know, we all absolutely adored you on Britains Got Talent but I want to know, what was the whole Britains Got Talent experience like?
Thank you! It was honestly such an amazing experience, I hadn’t done anything like that before so I wasn’t expecting to get far at all so it was pretty crazy! It’s also opened so many doors for me as a performer!
 
What pushed you to go on Britains Got Talent?
It was just a spur of the moment idea I had when watching the advert on TV! I had never wanted to apply before because it looked terrifying but that day I decided I wanted to try.

Was there any pressure hidden from the public that you felt whilst on the show?
No, I actually had so much support whilst on the show and although I was initially really nervous it boosted my confidence and I was really comfortable!

Can you describe to me what your sexual orientation and for how long have you known you were this?
I identify as gay and I’ve known deep down for a long time but didn’t really come to terms with it until around 17.

Have you personally been discriminated against for your sexual orientation or gender identity?
Luckily I haven’t! I know it happens a lot which is super upsetting but I really feel that things are changing and I’ve only had love and support.

What does the word “discrimination” mean to you?
I think discrimination to me is getting treated differently because of something that is out of your control.

Can you briefly describe some of the gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender people who are important to you in your life? 
I have quite a few LGBTQ+ friends which is really cool and definitely seeing them coming out and being themselves encouraged me to as well. Also I’m a huge fan of artists like Hayley Kiyoko, Kehlani, Lucy Spraggan and Lauren Jauregui who all helped me to realise that there is a huge community who will support me as a person and as an artist! Also YouTubers like Alexis G Zall, Amy Ordman, Shannon Beveridge and Rose & Rosie are super important as I watched a lot of coming out videos before really accepting who I am! As you can tell I’m a huge fangirl haha.

Do you think that there is lack of representation for LGBTQ+ members in the music industry? Why?
I definitely think it is getting better 20GAYTEEN has really been amazing so far! There are definitely a lot more artists who have come out and are making authentic music with same sex pronouns etc. There’s still a long way to go I think as representation is so important when you’re growing up as a queer person.

Is there any LGBTQ+ artist in the music industry that you look up to/admire a lot?
At the moment I really think Hayley Kiyoko is killing it! She’s started a whole movement and she’s very open and forward about her sexuality and being authentic! I’d love to work with her one day!

Hayley Kiyoko Pictured
Finally, where do you see yourself in 10 years?
Hopefully I’ll be doing huge stadium tours and be a household name haha! Most importantly I want to be happy and healthy. 

Thank you for your time and answering the questions Gabz! All the best. 
Thank you!!

Monday, 6 August 2018

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Borderline Personality Disorder is a somewhat common disorder yet so many people are uneducated on the subject. Around 1 in 100 people suffer with Borderline Personality Disorder, which is a very large amount if you think about it.

There are a few different reasons why people may get Borderline Personality Disorder. A lot of people with Borderline Personality Disorder have had problems in their childhood, such as bullying or abuse. There are a few different ways to treat Borderline Personality Disorder, but the most common treatment if therapy, the NHS will normally offer you therapy. Sadly, having Borderline Personality Disorder may make it more likely that you will self-harm and have problems with relationships, alcohol or drugs, but just know that here is help available out there.

There are many symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder. Emotional instability is a very common one. For example, periods of intense emotions that fluctuate, uncontrollable anger, mood swings, impulsivitiy and extreme difficulty maintaining healthy relationships. Everyone will experience Borderline Personality Disorder a bit differently, but if you have Borderline Personality Disorder, you may also have problems with:
  • feeling isolated or abandoned by others,
  • self harming or suicidal thoughts,
  • coping with stress,
  • getting on with other people,
  • strong emotions that you find hard to cope with,
  • misusing alcohol and prescription drugs,
  • illegal drugs and substances,
  • understanding other people’s points of view,
  • staying in work,
  • having a long-term relationship,
  • being able to maintain a home.

    If your doctor says you have Borderline Personality Disorder, they may say you have ‘borderline’ or ‘impulsive’ type Borderline Personality Disorder. There are small differences but there is some overlap between these illnesses:
    • If you have borderline-type Borderline Personality Disorder you may have more difficulties with relationships, self-harming and feelings of emptiness.
    •  If you have impulsive-type Borderline Personality Disorder you may have more difficulties with impulsive behaviour and angry feelings.

    The main treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder is psychological therapy, also called ‘talking therapy’. This may be one-to-one or in a group situation. Other treatments include:
    • Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT)
    • Cognitive Analytical Therapy (CAT)
    • Mentalisation Based Therapy (MBT)
    • Schema Therapy
    • Psychodynamic Psychotherapy
    • Therapy at a Thereputic Community
    • Mindfulness

    If you have, or think that you have Borderline Personality Disorder, there are a few things you can do regarding your own self management and self care, they wont obviously treat it, but they may help the slightest bit. This includes:
    • If you’re offered group therapy or support, give it a chance. It may seem intimidating to start with but a lot of people find it helpful in the long-run.
    • If you self-harm to deal with distress, think of other ways to deal with this. Try punching a pillow or writing about how you feel.
    • Use an online mental health forum. Make sure that you check with a mental health professional how trustworthy the website is for helpful information on Borderline Personality Disorder.
    • If something annoys or upsets you, try to wait a while before responding.
    • Look for patterns in the ways you respond to things that upset you. This may help you to work through problems in relationships.
    • Make sure you speak to a doctor if you think that your relationships with others are being affected.
    Borderline Personality Disorder can also cause other problems in life for those suffering. It is extremely common for people who have Borderline Personality Disorder to self-harm. Some people find self-harming can help them to deal with the emotional instability or anything else which comes with the disorder but it can cause serious injury, scars, infections, or accidental death. A big focus of Borderline Personality Disorder treatment is to find other ways to deal with painful emotions.

    People who suffer with Borderline Personality Disorder majorly struggle with impulsive behaviours, which is a tendency to act with little or no forethought, reflection, or consideration of the consequences. This can be many different things, for example, driving erratically or spending a large amount of money without thinking. This could cause the sufferer to land themselves in huge debt if they gamble or take out loans.

    It is also common for people with Borderline Personality Disorder to suffer with drug or alcohol misuse. The drug misuse can either be prescription drugs or illegal drugs. This can lead to serious addiction and even accidental death.

    Having Borderline Personality Disorder is nothing to be ashamed of but if you think you have it, it is important that you do see a doctor to get the help you most probably need and most definitely deserve!

    Friday, 3 August 2018

    Dear Demi Lovato- An Open Letter

    Dear Demi Lovato,

    Firstly, I want to start off by saying that we, your lovatics are 100% not let down by you. You will never let us down. Every day that you are breathing, you make us proud. You have no reason to be embarrassed, relapse is a part of recovery, it is a shitty part but it is part of recovery nonetheless.

    This just is a bump in the road, we've been down this road before. You have survived up to now, you can do it again- you keep surviving for a reason, you have a purpose, a reason and you are worthy of life, recovery and happiness.

    Dont let the negativity steer you away from the end goal: recovery. The negative opinions do not matter. You are who you are and we, your lovatics, adore you in every single way. Focus on your friends, family and lovatics. Remove the negative, toxic people from your life and learn to be independent once more. You are powerful, you are brave and you are who you are meant to be, if they do not like that and try to steer you in directions that are not right for you, get rid of them. No friend is worth risking your happiness for.

    You of all people deserve happiness. You have been to hell and back and still, your main focus is helping people.

    We have seen you grow and flourish over the years, seeing your confidence sky rocket and your passion to help people get bigger and bigger. You have saved millions of lives across this whole world, including mine. You make us feel so safe and as if we are not alone. Your lyrics speak pure honesty and we cannot thank you enough for that. You remind us that its okay not to be okay and that we are worth recovery. You saved us, let us save you.

    As a result, you're a hero to millions- not just for your music, or your acting roles but for your advocacy too. You stand up for LGBTQ+ rights, you raise awareness for mental health, you normalise subjects that are unspoken of, and we cannot thank you enough for that.

    You are only human and we, your lovatics, understand that. Humans make mistakes.

    But for now... its time to save Demi. Go, work on yourself, better yourself and look after yourself. Make the most of today. You are worth recovery.

    We know you can do this, we all believe in you.

    Ebony xo

    Tuesday, 31 July 2018

    Schizophrenia

    Schizophrenia is a long term mental health condition which is often described as a type of psychosis. This means that the person with schizophrenia is unable to distinguish between their own thoughts and ideas from reality. It causes a range of different psychological symptoms. 

    The media wrongly portray schizophrenia as such a violent and dangerous illness which is such a massive misconception. There is more media misinformation about schizophrenia than about any other type of mental health problem out there via things like TV shows and newspapers. They often present people with schizophrenia as being highly dangerous to society even though most people with schizophrenia dont commit violent crimes.

    Some people describe their thoughts as being controlled by someone else, that their thoughts aren't their own, or that thoughts have been planted in their mind by someone else. 

     Some symptoms of schizophrenia include:
    • Hallucinations, hearing voices, seeing things, smelling things, tasting or feeling things that only exist in their mind, they're not really there.  
    • Delusions, which can include paranoid delusions, which are strong beliefs held with complete conviction, even though it's based on a mistaken, strange or unrealistic view. It may affect the way the person behaves. Delusions can begin suddenly, or may develop over weeks or months.
    • Not taking care of yourself or wanting to. 
    • Wanting to avoid social contact.
    • Feeling disconnected from your feelings and the world. 
    • Difficulty concentrating.
    • A lack of interest in things.
    • Changes in behaviour.
    • Muddled thoughts which are based on hallucinations or delusions. 
    The causes of schizophrenia is currently unknown, but links have been made to genetic and environmental factors.

    There isnt a test which can test to see if you have schizophrenia, it is usually diagnosed by a mental health care professional such as a psychiatrist after a mental health assessment.

    Some milder symptoms of schizophrenia include:
    • Feeling suspicious or fearful.
    • Worrying about people's motives.
    • Hearing quiet voices now and again.
    • Finding it difficult to concentrate.
    Medication such as antipsychotic medication and CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) are the most common used form of treatment for people with schizophrenia. Many people recover from it yet the occasional relapse can happen. However, if it is well managed, the amount of severe relapses can be reduced significantly.

    Self care practices for schizophrenia includes:
    • Preventing illness or accidents.
    • Maintaining good physical and mental health. 
    • Avoiding drugs and alcohol.
    • Effectively dealing with minor ailments and long-term conditions. 
    • Stopping smoking.
    If you're experiencing symptoms of schizophrenia, you should see a doctor as soon as possible in order to get the right treatment, because as soon as it is treated, the better. 

    Friday, 27 July 2018

    3 Things I Would Do If I Wasnt So Afraid

    Irrational fears greatly control many of our brains without having reason for doing so, for example, we have had no previously bad experiences with our fears. Maybe it is just the unknown? Maybe it is embarrassment? Maybe we just have extremely irrational fears? But there is no doubt about it that these irrational fears hold us back from things that we would really like to do.

    Something I have always wanted to do, but always known that I would be way too scared to do is driving. Although driving is a totally normal thing and there are millions of cars on the road every day, I am still absolutely terrified of driving and I somehow dont think that I will ever manage it. Maybe that is why I am so afraid, that it is such a normal thing and I am worried that I may not be able to do it? I know many, many people are terrified to drive but overcome that fear whilst having lessons but for me it just seems a completely impossible thought that I could maybe be on the road one day. It isnt just the driving itself that absolutely terrifies me: its the idea of crashes, being physically injured or just having to exchange details with someone to sort the mess out. Police just driving about, it makes me nervous even though I am only the passenger sometimes! Maybe one day I will overcome this fear, at least, I hope I do.

    I think going diving somewhere warm would be an absolutely amazing experience, but it is something I also cannot see myself doing. Even just swimming in the sea on holiday makes me extremely nervous for a few reasons. One being waves. I. Dont. Like. Big. Waves. I like the sea to be still, thats when I am somewhat comfortable in the sea. Also, funny story whilst I am at it, I was in the sea on holiday one time, stupidly wearing my glasses. A big wave came and went straight over my head and my glasses were never seen again. Luckily, I had enough pairs of contact lenses to last me the rest of the holiday or that could've been an issue. Anyway, moving on from my glasses trauma. I also have a massive fear of deep water, I hate not being able to touch the floor (but at the same time, I hate touching the floor!). Not knowing what is underneath me scares the heck out of me, fish, crabs, seaweed ect, honestly I am like a big baby when it comes to being in the sea. I prefer to just chill inside a ring. But, maybe one day I will pluck up the courage and do this, even just snorkelling or just swimming in deep water would be enough!

    When I go on holiday, part of me loves being in a plane and another part of me absolutely despises it. I love the view from the window, the fields from so high up, the lakes, buildings, clouds and whatever else you see from the plane window, but I hate the height, it scares me. For the beautiful view, I would love to do a skydive. I think it would be the most empowering experience, yet there are so many factors that terrify me! Like, what if the parachute didnt work? What if I got there and I couldnt do it? What if I landed funny? I so hope to do it one day, maybe with someone who wouldnt be scared to do it at all so that I could feel their energy and they could motivate me. What would be even better would be to do it for a charity, raise money whilst conquering a fear.

    Maybe one day I will accomplish all of these, maybe not. But I am going to set myself a realistic goal. Ebony, your challenge is to complete at least one of these by 2024, that gives you just over 5 years, good luck.

    Thursday, 7 June 2018

    Zip World: Fforest Coasters

    The Fforest Coaster is the only Alpine Coaster of it's kind in UK. It is so much fun for all the family with this thrilling new adventure!

    The Fforest Coaster is based on the traditional toboggan but runs on rails, which offers an all year, all-weather experience.  Start your journey in the heart of the woodland, taking your sledge on your own or in pairs, and travel on the uplift through the trees.  You will then fly through the forest at exhilarating speeds!




     The Fforest Coaster adventure was the one that I was the most scared for, due to you having to control the speed yourself and being alone on the journey (a combined weight of 150 and you can ride together!). When we arrived, the queue wasnt that long anyway and we were probably waiting about 3 minutes for each go. It is super safe because you are plugged into a seat belt and you can apply the brakes at any time by yourself. Initially, it takes a while to get up to the top, which is actually a nice ride as you dont have to do anything, you can just relax for a bit by yourself and take in the views. If you dont hold the brakes on, it is super fast, which I was not expecting. Once your go is over, you have to go and re queue for your next go. I actually really enjoyed it.

    Pre-booking is highly recommended to avoid disappointment.

    The Fforest Coaster is a queuing based adventure. Please be aware that during busy times (especially weekends and school holidays) your first of three runs may take up to 30 minutes to start after the time of the session you have booked. All three of your runs may take up to 90 minutes to complete. During off peak times please give 30-60 minutes to complete your three runs. For safety reasons, after your first and second runs you are asked to disembark from your sledge and re-join the queue. During wet weather condition’s it is likely to take longer to complete all three of your runs due to additional spacing required between the release of sleds.

    Riders between 3 and 8 years old must be accompanied on the same sledge by 1 participating adult or child aged 9+ that is over 1.35m tall.

    Length of adventure
    • 365 m uplift
    • 710 m down
    Top speeds
    • 25m/h 40km/hr
    Highest point above the ground
    • 5 meters
    Main thrill points
    • You can control the speed up to 25 miles per hour.  You can travel as close as 1.5 meters to trees which makes this feel very fast.
    • There is an independent lift system that carries passengers and the sledge to the top.
    • There is a lockable seat belt system which is active as soon as you start at the bottom. 
    • The self-braking system and distance control system limits maximum speed and keeps the distance in between the sledges. 
    Long hair should be tied back, all jewellery and scarves to be removed and skirts are not recommended.

    On your feet, you will need to wear trainers or walking boots - open toe shoes, flip flops, sandals or similar footwear are not permitted.

    Zip World reserves the right to refuse admittance should appropriate clothing not be worn.

    Prices:
    £30 3 rides for 2 people - 1 child aged 3 - 8 years old and 1 person aged 9 years and over
    £20 per person for 3 rides for 9 years and over

    I actually made a short montage of videos of our weekend featuring a few videos from Zipworld if you wanted to watch that, heres the link: Video

    Zip World: Bounce Below

    Zip World Bounce Below is where thrill seekers aged 7 and up get a shot of pure fun in a spectacular setting deep underground. Children between the ages of 7 and 12 years must be accompanied by a participating adult and be at least 1.2m tall. Children between the ages of 13 and 18 years must be accompanied by a spectating adult.

    The breath-taking site, in a former slate mine in Blaenau Ffestiniog, North Wales, lets you play, slide, jump and bounce from net to net in a cavern the size of a cathedral.

    Following a massive refurbishment in 2016, the Bounce Below experience now offers four new industrial slides, the height of two double decker buses and six new levels of bouncing fun, giving underground adventurers 400 additional square metres to explore.

    Visitors enter a network of enormous caverns hidden underground, once home to a working Victorian mine, and now brought back to life as the only subterranean playground of its kind, offering a unique adventure in a beautiful and historic location.

    Bounce below was mine and Emily's 2nd adventure of the day. When you arrive you are handed a hair net and a helmet and are given a safety talk and you're off. It was surprisingly hot underground so you deffinitely wont be needing a jumper! All of the levels at bounce below are easily accessable with slides to go down and staires to go up or down, but you are advised to use the slides if possible! There are balls and things on different levels for extra fun whilst you bounce.






    Terms and conditions:
    The activity is based in an underground cavern where the temperature is approximately 10 °C. You need to wear suitable clothing that covers your arms and legs, preferably old garments in the likelihood of dirt/damage occurring. For Bounce Below, you will need to wear trainers. Open toe shoes, flip flops, sandals or similar footwear are not permitted.

    Long hair should be tied back, all jewellery and scarves to be removed and skirts are not recommended.

    Zip World reserves the right to refuse admittance should appropriate clothing not be worn.

    People with weak, injured or previously injured ankles should not take part in Bounce Below activities.

    Prices: 
    £25 per person if you're 18 years and over
    £20 per person if you're 7 to 17 years old
    £75 Bounce Below Family of 4 pass
    £5 per spectator

    I actually made a short montage of videos of our weekend featuring a few videos from Zipworld if you wanted to watch that, heres the link: Video